Updated: Aug 28
Economically disadvantaged peope have been sold the idea of happiness and freedom, which is a concept that varies depending on location, education, and upbringing. Wealthy individuals understand the strength of unity and order and teach their children to comply with societal norms. On the contrary, they spread a message to poor people that they should focus on their happiness and invest in themselves, leading to the dismantlement of support systems and family circles. This has led to a society where everyone thinks for themselves, except for the wealthy who maintain their unity to succeed in life. Economically poor families need to learn to contribute, share, and participate to grow together. Love is a sense of duty and obligation, not an emotional feeling. The more you give of yourself, the less you will receive in return. Therefore, parents should teach their children a sense of duty and obligation, respect rules, and comply with norms for successful careers and fulfilled lives. Obligation means a course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound
Families can be compared to corporations, and the dissolution of some families can actually benefit the ones that remain intact. Children are taught the importance of maintaining family unity to ensure future success. They leave home after fulfilling their obligations but still return to regroup and prepare for the next step in their lives.
Unfortunately, poor families often lack a sense of sharing, contributing, and participating in household chores, leading to a lack of growth for everyone involved. The lies about freedom and self-investment lead to unhappiness and the demise of the family unit.
Parents often have valuable advice based on their own experiences, and it's wise to listen to their guidance. Although many middle and lower-class parents lack the knowledge of their higher-class counterparts, they too have been sold the same lies about love, freedom, and happiness.
As demonstrated in the movie "Fences," love is duty and responsibility rather than a feeling, and taking care of family members is a duty and responsibility.
Let’s unpack this. If it were a competition on whose parents love their children, the most according to the idea of love we see on tv then the lower class would win. But does it? The top jobs in society go to the top 7%. These are the children that have grown up in boarding schools following rules and doing what their parents tell them. They go to the university of their parents’ choice and read (study) the degree they’ve been advised to take by their parents or guardians. And they live happy successful lives. Some of them go on to start their successful business and others go on to run their family business and some even go on to rule the country.
See, the point is… love is the duty, the choice, the responsibility to fulfil your obligations. You take care of yourself, your kids, your family, and your extended family because it is your duty. Not because you feel a tingle and a warm sensation.
The point is that love is not just a feeling, but a responsibility to fulfill one's duties and obligations towards oneself, family, and society. Expressing love alone does not guarantee mental stability or success, and it is important to teach children a sense of duty and respect for rules and norms.
Therefore, refrain from teaching children that love is solely based on emotional sensations and expressing it frequently will ensure their mental wellbeing and success in life. Instead, parents should emphasize the importance of fulfilling responsibilities towards oneself, family, and society. This will instill a sense of duty and obligation in children and encourage them to lead fulfilling and successful lives while respecting rules and norms. Focusing on such values is more likely to lead to genuine happiness and success rather than chasing empty and false concepts.